The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex
Pro-Child solutions for typical divorced-parenting situations by Ellen Kellner
Is a child asking if you love her Dad? [Divorced Situation #26]
Is your ex late for the visit? [Divorced Situation #6]
How do you set up the visitation schedule? [Divorced Situation #2]
Do you need Back-to-School Night help? [Divorced Situation #19]
Does your ex have a new spouse? [Divorced Situation #39]
Before reacting in The Old Way, grab the book!
The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex questions The Old Way of reacting to an ex and introduces The Pro-Child Way® of raising a child through mindful divorce solutions. The book’s layout, and tell-it-like-it-is style, makes it easy for a parent to gain advice on an issue while addressing the child’s need for love, patience, kindness, consistency, and security.
The Pro-Child Way® guides parents through the trickiest of divorced-parenting situations using a problem/solution format while keeping the child’s best interest a priority. Forty-six real life scenarios are addressed, providing first an often typical reaction and then demonstrating a positive Pro-Child response. Topics include: visitation, money, communication, and discipline.
Emphasizing that good parenting skills are absolute and are not corrupted by marital status, The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex offers a fresh perspective from the caring heart of a mom who has been there and taken a mindful path. By learning to recognize the difference between the divorced situation and the reaction to it, parents can save their child from the effects of the typical divorce, nurturing their child’s spirit through the process. Just as this parent has done it, so can others who are seeking a better way for their child.
The Pro-Child Way®: Parenting with an Ex has been praised by Montessori educators, psychologists, lawyers, elementary guidance counselors, and divorced parents. As one said, “It is for parents who have a strong desire to meet the personal and emotional needs of their children during and after divorce.”
"To anyone who has somehow become interwoven into the dissolution of a family, this book is a must have. It's as if Ellen had come right into my house and seen what had unfolded. Emotions were understandably high, a whole slew of feelings were within me - sadness, anger, worry, remorse, but also, compassion. These feelings all being for my partner, or soon to be ex. So how does one deal with all these emotions, AND be mindful of a child at the same time?? Ellen's book "The Pro Child Way" has guided me through this delicate situation."
~ Asha T., mother of 2 boys
Reviews for The Pro-Child Way: Parenting with an Ex:
"There is much to like about Kellner’s work, both in organization and in content. She takes 46 common contentious divorce scenarios, such as late pick-ups and the ex’s new spouse, and breaks them down into two approaches: the "Old Way" (an internal dialog of trash talking the ex, both accurately done and containing likely elements of truth), and the "The Pro-Child Way," which emphasizes zipping the lip if not turning the cheek to assist your child in maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents. She gives concrete sample sentences and sound advice for looking at the big picture of a child’s longterm emotional health."
Library Journal, Book Smack, December 2009
“This gem of a book should be handed out by ALL divorce judges to the divorcing parents when there are kids involved and they should have to go thru a course based on it as well. I am 100% serious!…
... really really can not recommend this book enough! If you are thinking about divorce, getting a divorce, or already through one, GET this book! And use the spring renewal to renew your vow to handle things with your ex in the BEST interest of your child/children!”
Nicole on her blog, BlessTheirHeartsMom
"The Pro-Child Way is the book every parent going through a divorce should be required to read. This book offers guidance and hope for divorcing parents who know the importance intact parenting can have on the lives of their children. It is written for parents who have a strong desire to meet the personal and emotional needs of their children during and after a divorce. Ellen Kellner's child-centered or Pro-Child solutions to a myriad of divorced situations provide parents with the ability to better understand their child's perspective and to then act accordingly in the best interest of their child."
Director, Children's House of Hershey Montessori
"Mindful solutions to divorce parenting! "Ellen Kellner's revolutionary solutions to these most common and sensitive situations that arise in the process of divorce parenting are truly inspired. Drawing upon her personal experience, she sheds new light on outdated and often detrimental ways of co-parenting during and after a divorce.
Ellen's creative solutions put the child where they belong: at the front of the equation instead of buried beneath the personal needs or resentments of the parents. This fresh perspective helps preserve a child's relationship with both parents in a way that provides the support the child needs to feel safe and loved.
Whether you are in the beginning stages of divorce, or are seeped in the aftermath, I highly recommend Ellen Kellner's book, "The Pro-Child Way: Parenting with an Ex", as a most helpful tool to more consciously navigate the unconscious pitfalls of divorce parenting!"
"What a great Book! I was in the process of requesting books for early review on another website, when I saw this book. The timing couldn't have been better. I had just been informed that my son & his wife intended to file for divorce. They have an only child who is a pre-teen. The situation is full of bitterness and anger. I see my grandchild being pulled between them. I purchased this book along with another and gave a copy to my son. It was well received and according to him helped in diffusing a potentially volatile situation over the weekend. His wife began reading the book after finding it on the coffee table and expressed to my son that she thought it was a good book. Both of them have now found a common way to focus their previously bitter discussions to positive solutions regarding what is best for their child. I was also able to see how grandparents can use the information to help their grandchildren by not taking sides and keeping communication positive in their interactions with both parents especially during family gatherings and the holidays.
The message that even one parent behaving in a manner that puts the interest of their child first will make a huge difference in the child's welfare, was very good to know. Even better, when one parent stops escalating negative behavior toward the other, often the behavior of the other parent is diffused. Out of the two books I purchased, this is the book they found most helpful. The book has offered practical, encouraging information to our family at a time when everyone is beside themselves as their lives change. It has been most gratifying to see that something as simple as a book has eased tensions and given an opportunity for my grandchild to perhaps be spared some of the more devastating traumas of divorce. Thank you, Thank you."
J. Alder "Ruby Slippers"